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Postby kaydeejay098 » Fri Jun 23, 2006 1:50 pm

my dad died recently i lived with him and now i am on my own i need someone to talk to cus right now i hate my self someone please talk to me x
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Postby kt73 » Fri Jun 23, 2006 5:09 pm

i am so sorry to hear about your dad. how old are you? do you have any relatives or friends that you could stay with? this is such a bad time for you to be on your own.
i know how it feels to lose someone, not a dad but a friend. so i do know how much it hurts but i think that the best thing that you can do right now is talk about it. dont pretend that you're ok, and dont try and avoid the pain because you cant, it will come back soon but even stronger if you dont try and deal with it now. are there any friends that you could talk to? you can talk to us here anytime you want! and feel free to pm me anytime.
dont hate yourself. your dad dying isnt your fault. it's not fair and i know that it probably makes you angry and so you want to be angry at someone and you choose yourself. but you shouldnt hate yourself. you are such a strong person to be going through this. and asking for help doesnt mean that you arent strong, everyone needs help sometimes and you definately have a good reason.
the pain from something like this never goes away. you cant get over it, but it is something that in time you can learn to live with.
any time you want to chat pm me! hope you're ok .. katie xxxxx
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Postby lyssaprue64 » Fri Jun 23, 2006 5:23 pm

Awww, I'm sorry, I hope you're ok Image
I'm here if you need talk, send me a pm Image
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Postby honda200 » Fri Jun 23, 2006 6:50 pm

katie wrote:i am so sorry to hear about your dad. how old are you? do you have any relatives or friends that you could stay with? this is such a bad time for you to be on your own.
i know how it feels to lose someone, not a dad but a friend. so i do know how much it hurts but i think that the best thing that you can do right now is talk about it. dont pretend that you're ok, and dont try and avoid the pain because you cant, it will come back soon but even stronger if you dont try and deal with it now. are there any friends that you could talk to? you can talk to us here anytime you want! and feel free to pm me anytime.
dont hate yourself. your dad dying isnt your fault. it's not fair and i know that it probably makes you angry and so you want to be angry at someone and you choose yourself. but you shouldnt hate yourself. you are such a strong person to be going through this. and asking for help doesnt mean that you arent strong, everyone needs help sometimes and you definately have a good reason.
the pain from something like this never goes away. you cant get over it, but it is something that in time you can learn to live with.
any time you want to chat pm me! hope you're ok .. katie xxxxx
...Hmm Katie that is some very good addvice to be sure sounds like someone has addviced you well kiddo... Image Image

But to Keejay, Katie's right there are lots of ppl who will talk with you about your loss,and that the pain never really go's away .as but with time and support from those around you ,it will get smaller and turn into something more manageable ,something that can be tucked away in the resecess's of your mind. and in its place ,instead of the painfull memory of his loss ,what remaines is the good memorys of your life growing up with him. But Keejay as much as talking here with some very insitefull pll, who will help you through this time ,but as Katie asked ..you also need to seek out someone ,who will support you there ,in person ,as there are no amont of words alone that can replase the sound of anothers voice saying those words ,or the the healing touch ,a hand to yours,an emprase from one who shares the same painfull loss you are going through. But Keejay i think it would help those here who will help you to know a little more about yourself your age ,gender might help ,and how he died .if your up to it.So you will get much help and support here,but also seek out a more personal kind of support there as well. As for me i lost my dad back in 82,83 ,but i still remember that prieod of time ,like it was yesterday ,as he was diagnosed with Cancer.he went in for all the treetmeants.umm keemmo(sp) Image .radiation but it was only to keep him alive long enough to get his afairs in order. Then 3 mounths latter we barried him.So Keejay i know and i still remember. and its bin 20 something years latter. I know its hard right now,but as others will atest to in time it will get easer . So stay strong Keejay make your dad proud..

And again Katie nicely said ..as comeing from someone who is still dealing with her own loss
Respectfully Jean(honda200)
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Postby sunshine2 » Fri Jun 23, 2006 7:13 pm

kaydeejay098 wrote:my dad died recently i lived with him and now i am on my own i need someone to talk to cus right now i hate my self someone please talk to me x


Good evening. ^_^ Oh, I'm sorry. I lost an uncle who was like a second dad I never had to me and I know how that feels. He passed away on May 13, 2004. I have also lost a grandfather last year on November 28, 2005. I know the pain. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can always PM me.

-God bless!
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Postby kaydeejay098 » Mon Jun 26, 2006 10:07 am

id like to say thanx 2 katie for her advice i am 16 i am tryin to deal with it its jus so hard to do it gets me down
i never have anyone to talk too but cumin on this site has made me feel better knowin that there is people out there who i can speak to
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Postby kris » Mon Jun 26, 2006 3:26 pm

You can speak to any of us any time and I'm sure we'll all try our best to help. I haven't had exact experience of what you're goign through but I am going through a hard time myself so I sympathise with feeling alone and down and things.

If there is anything I can I'm always here and never get worried to drop me a PM or whatever. You're obviously a great person and so strong to deal with this but like Katie said you shouldn't have to do this alone and even though we're all probably miles away we're all here for you anytime you need us. This board is great for things like that.

Try to keep postive and find something that you like doing, keep a keen interest in a sport or a hobby, somehting that you know would have made your Dad proud. I'm pretty religious and I believe that he's with you always and he'll always watch out for you. Things happen in there own time and I know its hard sometimes but just try to keep smiling. Like I said if you ever want anything PM me anytime and I'll try my best to help.

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Postby alwaysastar » Wed Jun 28, 2006 10:21 pm

katie wrote:i am so sorry to hear about your dad. how old are you? do you have any relatives or friends that you could stay with? this is such a bad time for you to be on your own.
i know how it feels to lose someone, not a dad but a friend. so i do know how much it hurts but i think that the best thing that you can do right now is talk about it. dont pretend that you're ok, and dont try and avoid the pain because you cant, it will come back soon but even stronger if you dont try and deal with it now. are there any friends that you could talk to? you can talk to us here anytime you want! and feel free to pm me anytime.
dont hate yourself. your dad dying isnt your fault. it's not fair and i know that it probably makes you angry and so you want to be angry at someone and you choose yourself. but you shouldnt hate yourself. you are such a strong person to be going through this. and asking for help doesnt mean that you arent strong, everyone needs help sometimes and you definately have a good reason.
the pain from something like this never goes away. you cant get over it, but it is something that in time you can learn to live with.
any time you want to chat pm me! hope you're ok .. katie xxxxx


As someone who has been through this, listen to this advice, its the best advice someone can give you. I've lost a close friend recently so I also know how it feels. It will never be ok that your dad has gone, I won't try to kid you, but it does get easier to live with I promise.

Don't hate yourself as I spent a lot of time feeling the same way about things I should have said or done and it really is a bad way to go. Its like you taking one step forward in coming to terms with it then 10 steps back in regrets and blame.

The only thing I can tell you is to listen to the advice of the people around you. If you bottle it up, it becomes much much worse to cope with and you will regret it later. The saying 'talking helps' is so true and you know you can PM any of us whenever you want.

Take care,

Bliss xx
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Postby robbie2 » Sun Jul 02, 2006 1:14 am

I really am sorry to hear of your loss, PM any of us - anytime!
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Postby monkeylover » Sun Jul 02, 2006 8:11 am

i am very sorry for your loss and i sorta know what your going through.

Just know that you can talk to any of us on this thread or if you wanted to talk in private pm whoever has posted inthis thread.

Good Luck

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